My Indonesian wife and I (Australian) unfortunately can't biologically start a family, so we are investigating private adoption. As an expat, I have to have been in Bali for 5 years and still have 3 years to go. We have explored some avenues only to find most were scams purely to extort money. We merely seek a mother who, for whatever reason, feels forced to give up their baby. We are not seeking to 'buy' a baby but would be willing to contribute for the mother's pain and suffering or hospital bills. Are we being naive or is this a possibility?
Private Adoption
16 posts | Started 1 year ago by brovic | Latest reply from brovic |
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Posted 1 year ago #
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Hi Brovic, feel for you both. My partner is balinese and I am australian. We have been told that going directly to the woman's hospital in denpasar can be a successful journey, for those seeking adoption without the hideous red tape But I have no idea what the implications are regarding passport, and legal papers are concerned.
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Thank you, peggysue. That's an avenue we haven't yet explored. I'll report back after we have visited them.
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Maybe find an org called Bali Life. I ran across them on Facebook. They help orphans. Maybe they can point you in the right direction. I imagine there are many families that could benefit from your offer. Win/win!
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Any updates on this? Going to the womens hospital sounds easy..but Im not sure would be legal right? And what about taking the child out of the country...
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Thank you jlee and kimgus, for your interest and suggestions. As I now understand it, if one of the prospective parents can prove that they are not able to re-produce, then it opens a lot more doors - so this is another avenue we are pursuing. Once you have the child, I think it is easier to officially adopt and I then see no reason why they should not be allowed to travel the same as any other Indonesian Citizen. However, should we eventually succeed, we have no immediate intention of leaving this beautiful place, be it Bali or Java. We will keep you all posted. Thanks for the support.
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Hi Brovis,
How have you been going with your adoption? I am in Australia at the moment so have been googling to find different info.. found this article
http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/dont-send-kiki-back-to-bali/story-e6freuy9-1225697155916The legal fees are crazy! Not sure the outcome with this couple but would hope adopting wouldnt cost as much...
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Thank you, kimgus, for your post and for your continued support and interest. It certainly is a minefield. The situation is this. Most unwanted babies are the product of children still at school and neither of their parents or family are aware of the pregnancy. They merely want their child taken away and looked after. Most want some kind of fiscal outcome either to cover school fees or the costs of delivery - more often than not by a midwife in the home. Some, however, use the ploy of a non-existant pregnancy merely to extort money. We have spoken to many and it is difficult to establish who is genuine and who is not. We have found that most are in Java and too far away to check it out until it is maybe too late. I guess it is easier for us as my wife is Indonesian and we were married here in Bali. To adopt through the usual channels I understand that the marriage must be of a minimum of 5 years duration, the maximum age limit of any parner is less than 55 years and the subsequent approval is income based. However, a private agreement between the birth parent(s)and potential step parents is allowed, provided that money is not seen to be changing hands. Also, we would have no immediate intentions of living back in Australia, otherwise this might pose a problem. Having said all this, and with all our knowledge - we still got caught. We were given a beautiful 6 week old baby boy by teenage parents still at school. However, after 3 weeks the family became aware and arrived at our house begging to have the child returned. We could have refused but we always believe that a child should be with their family if there is one. We were originally told that, if we did not take him, he would be taken to an orphanage and therefore we felt pretty safe. We will succeed - and probaly soon. If we can help others in similar circumstances, let us know.
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Hi Brovic,
How can I get in touch with you ?
Kind regards....Posted 5 months ago # -
Hello seekingfamily - Send me an email to: royspad@gmail.com.
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done :)
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Got it! - Reply sent.
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Dear Brovic
I read ur story here, it touch me till tears. How r u now? R u succeed at ur adoption? Pls posted. Good luck anyway!!!Posted 5 months ago # -
Hello Irinass5. I'm sorry for the delay in replying to your post, but our gorgeous 15 month old Son keeps us very busy. Thank you for your kind wishes. God has been good to us.
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oh such a great news !!! congrats! good luck& health to ur baby!
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Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and wishes. I have a beautiful family and I am living in a fantastic Country. What more could I ask?
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